5 Ways to Increase Happiness at Work

There is a lot of talk about having a healthy work life balance. We all know that burn out can lead to health, relationship and work issues.

How can we find balance much less happiness at work?

Over my career, I have had many jobs and held many titles. I have left good paying jobs for less money just to keep my sanity...just to find myself in the same place emotionally but in a different job.  I know from experience how hard it is to find a balance between work and home.  I’d like to share some things I have learned along the way.

1. Pay attention to whom you associate with at work.

It is ok to vent but if you find yourself surrounded by negativity, do what you can to dissociate from it. Water cooler gossip can be a sure path to job dissatisfaction.  Do your best to be professional. Remember you are a representative of the company you work for even to other employees.  Be the employee you would like to work with. Be the boss you would want to work for.

2. Approach each day as a chance to start anew.

Take time to meditate, practice mindfulness, pray, whatever you need to do to get yourself in the proper mindset to start your day.  Sometimes it is necessary to start your day over several times during the day.  Take a break even if that means you remain at your desk. Use post it notes or your computer to write positive affirmations. Remind yourself to read your affirmations when confronted with difficult situations or people.

3. Be a team player...but don’t overthink it.

Get to know your company’s culture. Is it closed or open? Are opinions valued or dismissed?  Unless you are the CEO or administrator in charge, accept that it is not your responsibility to run the company. Know your job description and who your supervisor is. Get to know your manager’s expectations. Make suggestions as necessary but be willing to accept the limitations of your current position. Keep an open mind and if the opportunity arises. For a promotion, go for it if that is what you want to do. Then start the process over again. Different roles require different expectations, skills and responsibilities.  In some cases it may mean you need to look for a job that is a better fit.

4. Make time for a social life.

This cannot be stressed enough. It is important to nurture your relationships with family and friends.

5. Use your commute as a time to rejuvenate by listening to motivational speakers, learn a new language, or listen to relaxing music.

Visualize your commute as a time to transition from home to work and vise versa. This also a good time to use your affirmations to set the tone for the rest of your day.

Most importantly, know yourself.

Keeping a positive attitude and mindset will set the tone for finding a healthy, happy work life balance. I hope you have found these suggestions helpful.

3 Steps to a More Confident You

I remember the first time I had to speak in public.

I was in 3rd grade and had a part in the school play. It was only two lines and I practiced day and night until the dreaded day came. All the parents were there along with my classmates and friends.

And then it happened…I forgot my lines. I nervously made something up. I was devastated. Everyone was talking about how I had ruined the play. Or so I thought. Oh I was teased and made fun of for what seemed like an eternity.

I was hardest on myself. Aren’t we all? My worst fear realized. But thinking back on it now. It set me free.

I had faced my fear. I didn’t die. I doubt anyone else remembers the humiliation of that fateful day but me. I was no longer afraid. It had happened I survived and the fear of public speaking left me. Not at once...but it was gone.

Confidence can be defined as a self-assuredness, a sense of trust in oneself. A sense of calm in a storm. Confident people inspire confidence in others. It is associated with authority and success. Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. Sadly, it is our own negative self-talk that often erodes our self-confidence. Learning how to break those patterns and replace your self-defeating thought patterns with a positive mindset can be a challenge.

Think of someone you know who is self-confident. How do they act? How do they speak? How do they walk?

Confidence is a way of interacting with the world that conveys a sense of security and purpose. When you speak do you speak with authority? Do you know what your purpose is? My father had a saying “Are you asking or telling?” People with self-confidence can do both and do so in a way that those around them are willing to do whatever they ask. They are good leaders.

Confident people do what they believe is right without second-guessing themselves. Confident people are not threatened. Confident people know how to listen to others. They keep a positive attitude when questioned or criticized. Confident people are willing to make a decision yet admit when they are wrong.

Practice acting with confidence and learn to face your fears.

Pay attention to negative self talk and replace negative statements with positive ones. Learn from your mistakes and don’t dwell on them. Every experience is an opportunity for growth. Don’t let a lack of self confidence hold you back from success. Sometimes you have to fake it till you make it. You don’t have to do it alone. How can I help you?

Success Mindset

Being successful is a mind game. That’s right - it is all about having the right mindset.

We have all heard the phrases, "What you think about increases," and. "You are what you think."  I grew up with a copy of Napoleon Hill’s book Think and Grow Rich on the bookshelf.

In order to achieve your dreams and desires it is important to first be able to see and feel yourself achieving your goals. That means, to be successful, you must be willing to face your fears and limiting beliefs. Often we aren’t even aware of our limiting beliefs. They are the voices from the past that often creep into our present from our subconscious. Sometimes, limiting beliefs are verbalized by our friends, family and social media, trying to shield us from disappointment or to keep us stuck. Either way that is exactly what happens we stay stuck.

It is important to identify what our limiting beliefs are and acknowledge our fears surrounding them. By taking responsibility for what shows up in your life, you are able to make a dramatic shift in your thinking. I’m not saying that bad things don’t happen to good people. I have had my fair share of disappointments and setbacks. I am saying that by shifting your mindset and perspective about what happens to you, you can gain a sense of control and inner peace. By accepting that everything is as it should be at this very moment, you set yourself free to shift your mind and focus on what you want to show up in you life.

We have all heard the saying, “If you can see it, you can achieve it.”  

I am reminded of a story about Viktor Frankl. He was a Holocaust survivor who made the decision that his purpose in life was to survive to tell the story. He survived by finding beauty and gratitude amongst the ugliest of atrocities. He dreamed of the day when he would be set free. Dr. Frankl became a famous psychiatrist and author.

Only you can change the way you see the world.

By changing your mindset you can achieve success beyond measure. Your only limit is your imagination. What limiting beliefs and fears that are holding you back?

Sometimes it takes a Coach to help you recognize and get rid of out-dated self-limiting beliefs and fears. Taking a cold hard look at your beliefs about money and success is the first step in getting rid of limiting beliefs. If you have a positive mindset about money and success you can achieve it.

Mindset is everything.

You must be willing to rid your mind of limiting beliefs. You must become conscious of limiting beliefs and admit you are not in alignment with your true purpose. Be willing to take responsibility for the way you think and learn to practice radical acceptance and self-love

Believe in yourself! Be confident! Be who you were born to be! The world is waiting.